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Connecting as Parents
It can be easy to slip into being focused on your new baby to detriment of your relationship.

Here are some questions that can get you thinking about your relationship and generate discussions that can form action items for you to work on:

• In the last week, what three moments do you thing of fondly that your partner was a part of?
• What TV show or types of movies do we enjoy watching together?
• What other interests do your share?
• What activities do you like doing together?
• What is something you can share with your partner related to the care of your baby?
• What are your favourite foods that you enjoy eating together?
• Fill in the space - When we go out, I most enjoy....
• What are your three most favourite places to be together?
• What do you most need from your partner to help you feel better?
• What is something you could do that would make your partner feel special?
• Who else do you like spending time with because they make me feel good?

You may be feeling that all your time and energy to focus on your newborn baby and you just can't see where you find extra hours for your partner.

Simple things like, eating fish and chips by the beach, watering the garden, taking a bath, or going for a 30min walk will really make a difference to your relationship and thus, the long term stability of the family.

Remembering what each other needs from each other is also part of the keeping the relationship strong. Some of us just need a gentle word or laugh, or even a meal cooked for us.